Remembering Mark Greenwood 1971 - 2006

still you live on

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Happy Birthday Mark! ( belated )

Still missing you!

From Jennifer (aka Jenny) Loudermilk Snyder

2007-07-03T15:09:00.000-07:00

Hello,
I lost contact with Mark many many years ago. As a matter of fact, I haven't seen him since June 1983, when we went on to junior high school. He was my first real crush and was always a sweet sweet guy {even at the ripe old age of 12} I am so pleased to know that he went on to live his dream of being a professional drummer. I am also deeply saddened to hear of his passing. Although I never moved far from our old hometown, life has a way of getting away. Please accept my deepest condolences at his loss, (also please extend them to his family) I know that if he continued to be the fine human being he was becoming at such a young age, that the world is definately losing out.

I remember fondly the first band he started at Saybrook School.... "WARLORDS" They even had a concert, it was Mark, Larry Wall and Alan Gustafson. They were quite "HOT" If we'd only known then, what heights he would reach. He was truly gifted.

Again, I apologize for my ignorance in not knowing more of his life, but even so, I was shocked and saddened to hear of his passing.

With deepest sympathy

Jennifer (aka Jenny) Loudermilk Snyder

PS This is a wonderful thing that you have done for everyone.

Message and Poems from Claudia

2007-04-08T07:41:00.000-07:00

Claudia sent me this message last week just after Mark's birthday and she wanted me to post this for today - one year after Mark passed on.

Hello, Aaron: I was drawn to the blogspot last evening, and thrilled with the "Happy Birthday" entry. How ironic that the first year
comes to a conclusion with Mark's birthday on Palm Sunday, and the date marking his death on Easter. It is ponderous to
to consider that we are remembering the last week of Mark's life during the same span of time honoring the struggle of the First Son.

Bruce and I plan to mark next Sunday with a hike to the national forest to lay a heartstone at the cowboy's prayer tree. It is a
sequestered spot with a beautiful view of the area. We will follow that with a balloon release from our deck. Kristen will release
a balloon in Denver simulatneously, we hope. Perhaps some of you would like to do the same, lifting up his memory in that way.

I would like to post two of the poems from my collection "Writing Towards Equilibrium: A Mother's Journey" to acknowledge the healing process. Again, thanks to all for remembering Mark's birthday.

[These poems were inspired by the many days that Claudia spent in her workroom sorting and organizing artifacts so that Brody might know his uncle. A process she dreaded at first was actually very beneficial.]

Discovery

Opening the box

marked “memorabilia”
I hesitated,
knowing that your childhood
would be revealed before me.
On top,
and covering all
as it had been
for the first wondrous years of your life,
was “blanky”
tucked gently down at the corners
concealing the pearlized satin binding
frayed from the rubbing of your tiny fingers
from the sucking of your perfect lips.
I lifted it gently
found a corner
and held it to my cheek
expecting
a connection, perhaps,
a warmth,
comfort.
Yet even as I opened and held
the blanket, full length,
against my heart,
it had no warmth
no precious baby smell.
Of course.
It was never my comforter.

Laying it aside
I lifted and admired
piece after piece
of the completed puzzle
you became.

Still Life

Painful at first
this task of
sorting
and
ordering
photographs
that captured moments
of a too-short life.
Yet as each multi-colored
square and rectangle
took its place
on pages of the albums

friends
family
mentors

the river

drumsets
keyboards
recording equipment

the river

cars
boats
campers
cars
boats
tents

the river

you lived
once again
to show me
to teach me
to help me understand
and,
most important of all,
to make me laugh.

~ Mom

Happy Birthday, Mark

2007-04-01T19:33:00.000-07:00

Wish you were here.

the fall, the soul cages and the water

2006-10-12T19:26:00.000-07:00

This time of year makes me think of Mark.

One fall weekend in college, we went to his parents' house in Ashtabula for a visit. We spent some time watching the waters of Lake Erie crash and spill over the breakwall at some spot he used to visit when he lived there, listening to Sting's "The Soul Cages" cd. We joked around plenty that weekend, but talked about some deep stuff, too. It was a very memorable trip for me, for some reason. I suppose it was talking with Mark about big stuff that affected me, and still does today. I never made it to his parents' cabin on the Goulais - always something that seemed to get in the way of making the trip. But that time with him in Ashtabula made me see how connected he was to the water and to the outdoors.

Sounds kind of silly to read that - "connected to the water." But it doesn't seem silly in my memory. Mark always seemed to be hiding and guarding a lot more in his soul than he communicated. Just like the water hides more than is visible from the surface. And every now & then, you get a glimpse of the complexities that lie beneath the icy grey waves.

I miss Mark. But the crisp, cold air in October helps me remember what lay beneath the surface near that breakwall along Lake Erie. If you think of it this fall, listen to that cd of Sting's. Maybe it will make you think of Mark, too.

Mark's Gifting Day

2006-09-01T17:02:00.000-07:00

Mark's family recently said good-bye to him as they spread his ashes in the Goulais River. Claudia was thoughtful and considerate enough to share that day with us by providing photos and the poem she wrote for the occasion..

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Body and Soul

Tumbling, playful waters
that were central to his life,
take our son, our brother
on a final journey.
Wrap him in the clarity he sought,
enfold him in the joyous promise
of union with deeper water
expanding,
purposeful,
that will touch shores
distant beyond all imagining,
embrace them,
then move on,
marking the rhythm
of life
the ebb and flow
and of love
the presence and absence
of loved ones’
eternal traces.
Claudia Greenwood
8/26/06

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Sunrise on Gifting Day

The rapids south of Whitman dam on the Goulais River.

The gifting pool, start of the journey.

As the crow flies, the Goulais Bay is about 30 miles from here. The river twists and turns into a much longer journey.

Leaving the rapids, entering the calm, peaceful water of the Goulais.

Letting go...

Footprint of time.

View of Goulais Bay, Isle Parisienne, and Lake Superior from the top of Bellevue Mountain, downriver from Whitman Dam.

Best friends. Mom, Dad, and Glynn

Family

Next generation river runner, Brody.

Quiet at the end of the day. Bruce with Chi and Isabel. [Note the tiny jeans drying on the line. Brody just had to sit in the river at the rapids.]

Mark Greenwood Memorial Concert DVD is now available

2006-08-04T12:01:00.000-07:00

I've put together a DVD of the memorial concert. If anyone is interested in a copy, please email me at davidbushey@yahoo.com. The charge is $10 (to cover the cost of materials). Thanks again to everyone who made the concert great.

More Photos, Thanks & Thoughts

2006-08-03T17:31:00.000-07:00

Mark Greenwood was one of the most sensitive and caring musicians I've ever had the honor of sharing music with. So many others have said such beautiful things about him here and at the memorial, I can only add that from the first time I heard his playing, I thought he was unique. He played with such energy! Later when I got to know him better as a musician I KNEW he was special. He was a brilliant producer, a great song writer ( he would often complete my thoughts! ), a great drummer ( one of only a handful of drummers that could play ANY style ) with a wonderful and slightly twisted musical sense of humor, a great engineer and of course, you all know - a great person. I had so many wonderful times in his company!

I wish a huge thanks to everyone that gave their time and efforts to the memorial and thanks to all that attended. It really was beautiful.

I have a small web gallery of scanned photos ( some from Tim Perdue, Rae Gandolf and Alicia )

Mark Greenwood Photo Gallery

If you have photos that you would like to add, feel free to contact me.

The Pocket

2006-07-30T18:33:00.000-07:00

In the short time I got to be in a band with Mark (HEFFY with Rob Maccabe and Ben Backert) he really taught me a lot about playing in the pocket and taking it easy.

I have to admit that Mark was kind of an intimidating dude, when I very first met him. I went to like, 4 rehearsals before he ever said anything to me at all... and were the rhythm section - no talking. Dang!

But then one day, we were sitting outside the rehearsal space and he just started talking to me about music... asking me questions about what I liked etc, and gave me a couple of really nice compliments on my playing and a few pointers too. I never forgot them. And after a couple of more months or so of playing with Mark, I feel like something changed for me as a musician. My approach changed, for the better, thanks to him. He gave me a great book once called "Jazz Anecdotes", that I have to this day, and still browse thru often. I think about him when I read it.

Mark was a super-cool, creative and sensitive guy. I really admired him a lot, and will miss that dry sense of humor, crooked smile and unique personality.

-Jay Donovan

Dogrocket video

2006-06-05T20:50:00.000-07:00

This is a music video that Mark and Faith participated in (around '95, I think). I'm posting it without permission of the copyright owner, but I don't think they would mind. Hope you enjoy.

More Mark Movie Magic

2006-06-01T09:49:00.000-07:00

Mark was a fan of Steve Martin, and often imitated him with lines from his movies. I thought it would be fun to replace Steve Martin with Mark in some of these films and see how he'd measure up. But just like in real life, the end result is even better with some help from his friends...

2006-05-29T16:28:00.000-07:00

About a month ago, I dug through my very disorganized photo boxes to see if I could recover any images of Mark. Even in college I must have been "behind the technology wave" and without a decent camera to take candids, because all pictures I found including Mark were taken "professionally"...Aaron helped scan them so I could post them below! [We were discussing at the Molnar's recent cookout, who Mark would have attended the Chi Pledge Party with...we think it was a basketball player named Myrna (she's the one on the far right in the 2nd group shot), but we're not positive...] It seems we were all a bit younger-looking and possessed much more hair back then (even my husband, Frank, who didn't have a lot to begin with)!

More from the Cabin

2006-05-27T05:29:00.000-07:00

These are from the summer after Mark's (and my) freshman year of college when he gathered up some newer friends and older friends for a Canada trip. It's me, Mark, and Carl. Did I see Carl at the memorial? I thought maybe I did but I wasn't sure and got distracted before I could find out.

And this is me and Mark messing around with his keyboard and portable multi-track recorder. For some reason we were trying to get a good recording of us whistling the theme to The Andy Grifith Show with the two part harmony.

Carl and his girlfriend Sharon road up with Mark, me and my now wife Teresa in the Greenwood's blue van. Later, Beth Winters (now Stewart) and her boyfriend at the time showed up as did Mark King.

There was a lot of ski footage taken by me with Mark's camera as one of the Marks drove the boat. Some great shots of Mark (and Mark King) slolam skiing in front of the Goulais pine backdrop. Sadly, it looks like no such videos exist anymore. I also remember some footage of me doing one severe nose dive after another on a knee board trying to jump the wake. Never did get it. Mark made that look very easy. It was not.

A Few More Photos

2006-05-24T12:27:00.000-07:00

Here are a few more photos I came across - the first three are from Thailand, and the fourth is from a 1998 HW&M trip to Chicago...

The Three Amigos

2006-05-23T15:44:00.000-07:00

Ole'!

Post-Memorial Thoughts

2006-05-23T09:42:00.000-07:00

Though thanks have already been given by several individuals in regards to the memorial concert, I want to extend my gratitude also. I thought that the slide presentations would be the catalyst for shedding tears, but for me, it was the music and Claudia's and Ben's speeches...I have sincerely missed seeing all of you Cap musicians play live and I am astounded by how much emotion and musicality was present after limited rehearsals. You are all so talented! Thank you for sharing your gifts with all of us!

Thank you also to Claudia and Kristen for attending the event. I could never guess how therapuetic it would be for me to hug you, talk to you about Mark, and gain insight about where you are in your greiving process. It would have been so easy for you to isolate yourselves from Mark's past and instead you showed great courage by allowing yourselves to grieve with all of us. I hope you both found some comfort and peace seeing how many of us cared about Mark...

One last thing - if anyone has the lyrics to the pop songs that Mark wrote and which were played at the concert, would you please post them on the blog? I loved the Tin Can Suzie song that was a part of Rae's presentation and because I couldn't hear all the words to Promises and Whispers, I'd like to see those lyrics too.

Great effort by all involved - loved reuniting with you all. Hope we can gain some sense of closure now while still examining how this has affected our lives...

The Crown Dynasty

2006-05-23T05:26:00.000-07:00

Soon after graduation from Capital, Mark and I played in a surprisingly great production of Ain't Misbehavin in North Carolina. I was contacted first and was asked to bring a long a trombone player so Brian Banyon went down with me. The guy who was directing the show also provided the singer/dancers for some cruise ships. He was happy with Brian and I and the show's drummer was not cutting it. So, I called Mark and he drove all the way down with his drums from Ohio in his Blazer.

The show went well and the guy was pleased that I had brought along such great musicians so they trusted me to put together a band for a cruise ship. The Filipino band that played regularly needed a vacation. Anyway, here are some photos and memories from the ship.

The first picture is one of us in our tiny space where we played for dance sets and twice every night for the singer/dancer performances. We also played for any special guest performers and official party games the cruise director scheduled. You can just see Mark's head back at the drum set.

It was during this time that Mark started to experience some serious health problems. There were at least a couple weeks where he would barely get out of bed and times when he couldn't play. The ship physician could find nothing wrong. Later I think there was some speculation by other doctors that he had a parasite from the trip. I now wonder if this was the case and how that may have eventually triggered other problems with his condition.

Here's Mark standing in the doorway to our very, very tiny cabin.

The next two are from one of the times when we stopped in Costa Rica. Randy Wanless, the guy with the injured leg, spoke a decent amount of Spanish and worked out a deal with a cab river to take us around for the day. Here we stopped for a photo. The second shot is when we took a dip in a swimming hole. Unfortunately Mark's head is blocked by a leaf but you can see him giving a peace sign.

Next is most of the band on the upper deck where we often lounged around in the sun when we weren't performing or rehearsing. This was a great shot was taken by Randy.

Finally, here we are at a beach in Acapulco where we were pressured by some locals to buy hammocks. You can see me in the silly hat and Mark looking at the rainbow colored one that they're spreading out. That's the one he bought.

Across from that beach location was a fresh water lake where we could jet-ski and water-ski - although I don't think anyone water-skied for some reason. Probably too expensive. We also had some great authentic Mexican food over there.

Memorial Concert Follow-Up

2006-05-22T15:14:00.000-07:00

My head is still reeling too much from yesterday's concert to write about it yet. It seems like a dream - both because the event came together so much better than I ever imagined, and because I still can't believe Mark is gone - but there are two items of business that I wanted to take care of right away.

First, is to thank again everyone who came together to make this happen, especially Jenn Kern and her parents. As I was driving back from Deer Creek Sunday morning, heading straight for the Columbus Music Hall with a mini-van filled to the brim with kids & dirty laundry, I thought of a million things that likely needed to be done before the concert. When I got to the Music Hall, Jenn - who cancelled her students' piano recital and drove up from NC for this event - and her parents already had the chairs set up, the coffee made, and were pulling together a shopping list for a last-minute run to the store. I hadn't seen Jenn in 13 years, and yet the moment I walked in the door, I could tell she had not only read my mind, but thought of a million other things that she had already taken care of. Dana Maccabee also took on a lion's share of the set-up and clean-up (the whole while looking absolutely fabulous, I must say!)

Second, someone asked that I post the lyrics to the song I wrote. Using the magic of the Internet, below are the lyrics, with hyperlinks to some other information that may help illustrate the process of how this piece of music came to be:

Closer to Believing

When some people walk along beside you, so sure of their way, you're touched by their presence.

And others may cross paths with yours as you wander through the mire, compelled by uncertainty and desire.

I can't define the imprint you left behind, I can only think about the meaning that you're life had in mine

And I'm a little bit closer to you
And you're a little bit closer to me
And we're a little bit closer to believing in love.

Eyes I dare not meet in dreams, in death's dream kingdom these do not appear.
There, the eyes are sunlight on a broken column.
There, is a tree singing, and voices are in the wind's singing, more distant and more solemn than a fading star.

Between the idea and the reality
Between the motion and the act
Falls the shadow

Between the conception and creation
Between the emotion and the response
Falls the shadow

Between the desire and the spasm
Between the potency and the existence
Between the essence and the descent
Falls the shadow

For thine is
For life is
For thine is the kingdom

For thine is
For life is
For time is a river, and life is very long.

The Tribute Concert

2006-05-22T09:48:00.000-07:00

I just wanted to say thank you to everyone who worked so hard to put together the concert in memory of Mark yesterday. The DVD presentations were terrific, the music hopping (I didn't get it either, Claudia, heehee), and the company wonderful. Some fellow Cap grads I hadn't seen since I graduated in 1990, and although we've all gotten older and grown (some of us in more ways than one, wink), it sure did my heart good to reconnect, and I could have imagined Mark walking through the door to join in.

But I have to say, how many pictures of Mark made me think of him as someone who lived life to the fullest. I bet he packed more living into 35 years than I will have into however many I make it to... So many pics gave us a chuckle. Wow, the Thailand pics in the waterfall just look amazing to me...

Finally - Tiffany - your song was what Got Me. It was beautiful way to remember Mark and, for me, the highlight of the afternoon.

(Then there was watching my daughter and your son play together.) :)

My best to all,
Tina

Korp Kun Krap

2006-05-20T12:19:00.000-07:00

Ah, yes, Thailand. A lot of memories have been popping up recently from that trip - I'll try to share a few as I remember them. First, Jim mentioned the Singha drum. For those of you who have no idea what this is about, For a long time, Mark's bass drum said "Singha" across the front - cleverly rearranged letters from the "Slingerland" logo, I think. Singha is the name of the biggest (maybe the only) Thai brewery, and the most popular beer in Thailand - we drank a lot of it on that trip. (Oddly enough, the second most popular is the Danish beer Carlsberg, only because they happen to have a brewery there). So, for many years after, the Singha drum served as a great reminder of that trip. I actually found some Singha beer here once, but it just doesn't taste the same unless you're sitting on a tropical beach drinking it. Nevertheless, maybe we should track some down and have one more for Mark.

Aaron's mention of the boat trip is another good story. While we were in Phuket, all the bands got a free tour of Phang Na Bay on a couple of authentic (but updated, fortunately) Chinese junks. This is the place where all of the strange-looking rock islands just seem to stick straight up randomly out of the water. (These are the islands seen in "The Man With the Golden Gun" and "The Beach", to give you an idea). There were two boats, and when we arrived, almost all of the other musicians quickly got onto the other boat because they thought we were too weird and wanted to keep their distance. And yes, it was so hot that several of the guys decided to take a swim after lunch, despite the warnings that there may have been jellyfish lurking about in the water.

There are a lot of other memories from that trip. The seemingly endless flights over the Pacific and back. The airport at Samui, which was basically a collection of buildings with thatched roofs and no walls. Steve's bass being carted overland in a truck because it wouldn't fit onto the small Thai "commuter" planes. The first concert that ran so far behind schedule we didn't play until something like 2:00AM. Mark braving a very unsafe-looking bungee-slingshot ride in Phuket. The Songkran festival in Hat Yai, where basically everyone takes the day off and rides around in the streets throwing water at each other. The surreal 12-hour layover in Seoul on the return trip (enough for another story in itself).

What a trip! There were a lot of good times in those couple of weeks, and I'm glad Mark and I and everyone else had the chance to share them. Oh, and by the way, "korp kun krap" is Thai for "thank you". Thanks, Mark!

More from Thailand

2006-05-20T09:23:00.000-07:00

Here are some more pictures from Thailand. For those who don't know, we were playing with Honk, Wail & Moan in a three week jazz festival in honor of the king of Thailand who apparently loves jazz. Rudely, however, he never showed up. I know there must be a lot more pictures out there from this trip so I look forward to seeing some from some other guys. Thanks to Tim for sharing so far!

The first photos are from when Mark, Dick, John, and I rented some mopeds on the island of Koh Samui. You can see them standing in the some shallow water where we stopped to "cool off". That turned out to be a joke since the water was like very warm bath water. I have never been as hot as I was (temperature hot) on that island. Even when we were riding around on the mopeds creating a good, steady breeze it felt like my forearms were on fire from the sun beating down on them. Another time I was walking down the main road and found my self walking faster in between the tiny amounts of shade from various little storefronts like you might otherwise do to get relief from a downpour.

Another very hot experience was in Phuket (the second stop on our tour) where Mark and I were determined to take advantage of our time and experience all that we could in spite of the brutal heat (this was the off season when most tourists would stay away). We took a hike up some little mountain that we'd read about in a pamphlet or something. Man, by the time we got to the top, I was feeling signs of heat exhaustion and the water we carried with us tasted like somebody warmed it up on the stove. What saved us was the cold waterfall at the top that we let pour over us to cool off. Before that, I'm convinced that at least my body temperature was at a dangerous level.

I'm the photographer in my family so there aren't many pictures of me cause I'm always behind the camera. Still, I like to think that I'm actually in every shot sharing my perspective with the viewer. So, here's a picture of me that I like because Mark took it and I can imagine that moment through his eyes. I was holding one of the sea slug things that we'd seen in the water all over the place and he dared me to pick it up.

Finaly, here are some various other pics - one from a boatride we took as a band. Maybe someone else can tell that story.

Today It's Real.

2006-05-19T18:23:00.000-07:00

First, thanks to everyone who has contributed to this memorial. I come here ever day to read the posts and comments. It really helps.
The toughest thing about Mark's death has been accepting the reality of it. I haven't had direct contact with him since he moved west, so it's hard to believe he's not still out there somewhere. For years, I've had it in the back of my mind that one day he would just fall by a Honk gig at Dick's and tear us all a new one. "Hey Mark, Great to see you again!" You know? He had such a gift for groove, energy from way down deep. If you missed Claudia's poem "Distant Drummer" you should definitely find that post. It captures Mark's musical persona perfectly.
Well today, quite by coincidence, Mark's death came home to me. Every day I wake my kids for school with a song or two that's stored on my PC. This morning I grabbed the Blanton-Webster band recording of Ellington's "Don't Get Around Much Anymore". No special reason, just hadn't heard that one in awhile and kids love old time swing. As it happens, the next thing on my hard drive was the Honk recording of "Don't You Methyl With My Ethyl" from the Saturn Swings CD (alphabetical order, eh). If you don't know the recording, it's a classic example of Brian Casey's lyric wit. Mark sings the lead (really well) and keeps things simmering from the kit too. We all had a great time making that recording. Well, hearing Mark's voice warm and vibrant from all those years ago was all it took to push me over. Suddenly, his death was real to me. Horrible and impossible, but real.
Maybe we should all record something for the future, even if it's just a few corny jokes or a short howdy. It secures a kind of imortality. More importantly, it really comforts those left behind. We're lucky to have so many recordings of Mark. I know he loved making them. It was always a great pleasure to play with him, whether it was recorded or not.
Maybe one of the other Honkers can tell the story of the "Singha" drum kit. I don't remember anymore.
Maybe I'll fall by your gig someday Mark.
"Mr. Engineer, faders up!"

Memorial Concert - Reminder

2006-05-19T13:19:00.000-07:00

The Concert will go forward this Sunday at 3:00 p.m., rain or shine. The music portion will be indoors, but pray for decent weather anyway so we can visit after the concert in the courtyard out back. The Columbus Music Hall is located at the corner of Parsons and Oak. (click here for a map) Free parking is available in the lot adjacent to the Music Hall and along Oak Street.

See you Sunday.

photos related to my previous post

2006-05-19T12:20:00.000-07:00

Party at the Columbus Music Hall--June '96

The opera date--circa '91

658 Sheridan Ave. dinner party. Fall '92

Travis Rd. party. summer '94

Amazing

2006-05-19T11:10:00.000-07:00

After a few attempts to complete a post which failed due to the antics of my young children (and not so young computer) I'm trying agian to add my part to this tribute to Mark. Unfortunately, I am unable to be at the concert on Sunday and feel compelled to share...

I first met Mark on a blind date toward the beginning of our time at Capital. I was amazed. How could someone be so impossibly cool and yet remarkably easy to be around? He was so talented and smart and funny. I was so impressed by how he seemed to love and respect his parents and sister. I was thrilled to meet someone who seemed to have similar relationships with his family to those I had with mine...

Over the course of our college years and a few beyond, Mark and I were involved with each other in various ways. What is most memorable to me now is that during the time in my life when I was trying hard to learn how to live as my adult self (and spending too much time trying to figure out who other people wanted me to be) with Mark I could just...be. It was as if I had known him much longer than I actually had. It was amazing.

What seems most impressive about the transition of our relationship from "dating" to "friends", to "friends of friends", and back again is that it always seemed to shift rather seemlessly and without awkwardness or animosity typical of such situations. OK, so there was the time he referred to me as "Baked Alaska" during a rousing group game of "If I Were Gonna' Eat You" at Tiff & Amy's and my apartment on Sheridan. But he had also been one of the first official "dinner party guests" (along with Dave B.) there too. Ironically, he was the first person I ever saw an opera with. And then years later he somehow managed to get me to be in one of his short films in a role I could never let my children see. Amazing.

The last I had heard from Mark was nearly a decade ago when he called me in NYC because he was in town for a gig. I was not able to go. I wish I had. It is hard to know how to grieve for someone you've not seen for so long...someone you may not have seen again. I grieve over a life cut short. I grieve for his family's loss of a son/brother. I grieve over a new closure on that part of my past. But at this point I also try to breathe a bit deeper, hug my children a little more often, and smile when I eat Grape Nuts. I look in the eyes of my son and hope harder for him to follow his dreams. Mostly I am thankful that I had the opportunity, even if only for a little while, to be close to someone so amazing.
Katie

Remembering Mark Greenwood 1971 - 2006

2006-05-17T19:39:00.000-07:00

Remembering Mark Greenwood
1971 - 2006

About 2 months ago, I opened a fortuned cookie and read “You love Chinese Food.” I laughed and thought of Mark and put it in my bag planning to mail it to him, thinking that too many months (was it actually 2 years?!) had gone by. Mark once told me about a slightly uncomfortable first date he had at a Chinese restaurant…after the meal he opened his fortune cookie and read “you love Chinese food” and it struck him so funny that he was practically balled up on the floor of the restaurant laughing…the girl thought he was a bit strange for laughing so hard at a fortune cookie and I don’t think they dated again! He liked to tell that story.

I met Mark, along with some other great musicians/ soon to be friends, in late ’94. After he moved out west, I realize that I only kept track of him through his mom. (I’d take Bruce and Claudia for parents any day! And Mark was so openly proud to be their son and Kristen’s brother) ....It led to a first date at the "round bar" and then over the years to come, we were many things to each other- there was a lot of love, and friendship was always at the heart of it. I knew Mark before he started getting ill, but soon after we started to become close, the mystery began to develop. Somewhere in that time, we found Isabel, the wonderful German Shepard who brought Mark so much love. I was granted Godmother status and it never occurred to me that such a thing could possibly have any real meaning.
Mark moved out of one house, hoping there was some sort of underlying allergy at the root of his health problems, and into a “new” house down the street. That dilapidated, crooked house took months to become a home – largely due to Bruce and Claudia’s laboring! The discovery of a well in one of the rooms downstairs, the wicked slant of the house…all these things became a good laugh ---in retrospect, that is! The painting, the stripping, the mending…Mark took pride in seeing that house turn around, and great times were had there by many.

I was fortunate enough to be part of the Canada crew for 3 years. As many of you know, there’s no doubt that Mark loved the cabin in Canada like no other place- and that when he was there, there was no place he’d rather be. He gave an everlasting gift to many of us by sharing it. For some reason, Jeff seems to think it’s a funny story about how pissed Mark got when I almost ran him over with the boat motor! Personally, I’d rather remember other things! (and heck, there were several feet to spare!) I prefer to think about how Mark was delighted to sit by the fire, always wanted everyone to do stuff together as a group, and joked about how since he started inviting girls to the cabin they'd stopped catching fish. (He quit complaining as soon as Alicia made dinner!) Aaron, you should know that “Billlll” wasn’t just circa ’94- I think that the cabin brought out a lot of old catch phrases! About the camp supper thing though, I think that after Mark came back from Thailand that was replaced by Pad Thai. That’s really the only thing I remember him cooking! He loved to make it for people almost as much as he loved to eat it. I remember when he came back from a doctor/nutritionist one day he was so happy because he’d told her about his Pad Thai cravings and she’s said it was probably because there was so much stuff in it that’s good for you. Yup, then he started eating even more pad thai!

For now I'll have to organize my pics for Sunday, but will try to add some (like one of Mark cooking pad thai!) as soon as I have a place from which to upload them!

Meanwhile, Here’s a song Mark wrote and recorded in 1999. I have no doubt it was just as much for him as it was for me. From a musical layman's point of view, I find it magnificent and a little sad. It came to me that I should share it because even though Mark hid a lot of things as he lost hope of recovering, I know that deep down he really wanted to be open and share with people. And, I guess that’s what this blog is about. Thanks for the url, Aaron!
http://www.aaronmolnar.com/Playlists/MarkSong.m3u

Rae

Remembering Mark Greenwood 1971 - 2006: May 2006

2006-05-17T19:23:00.000-07:00

Remembering Mark Greenwood
1971 - 2006: May 2006

A few memories

2006-05-17T16:43:00.000-07:00

I met Mark when we were freshmen together at Capital. Looking back, Mark and Aaron seemed to always be together. The first thing that struck me about Mark was his self-confidence and self-assurance. Watching Mark play the drums was a magical experience, he made it look effortless. Meanwhile, I was struggling to discover my path in life, was vocal performance it? Mark was born to be a musician, to tell stories through his talent. Mark also struck me because of his sense of humor. Mark and Aaron showed me the art of the wisecrack, the power of wordplay, the importance of humor. At that point in my life, I took everything seriously and to heart, even the little things. One story stands out concerning Mark's sense of humor. Our first two years in college Aaron, Mark, and Frank hung out a lot together. I was Frank's roommate and being a litle gullible and naive, was ripe for the pickings. One night these three convinced me that someone in Schaaf Hall had intentionally taken my Reds ball cap. I frantically looked for it where they told me, making numerous trips up and down the stairs. Upon finding it, I went back to my room to find that someone had taken our orange chair! I must have been color blind my sophomore year because we had red carpet with one brown chair and one orange chair, definitely not on par with what you see on HGTV. Well, after what seemed like an eternity of searching and asking everyone where my chair was, it magically reappeared in my room. Mark was a prankster, but he made me laugh and accepted me for who I was and who I was becoming.
I hadn't seen Mark for 12 years when Missy and Frank called me with the news. I am thankful for my time with him, to listen to music, and talk about music. He taught me the importance of having a sense of humor, of not taking everything so seriously, and of focusing your passion. I'll remember his laugh that could move mountians, and his ability to get in the zone when playing that enabled him to be such a great musician.

Matt Groenke

A Few Words & Photos...

2006-05-16T12:24:00.000-07:00

I didn't know Mark as well as many of you, and most of my thoughts and feelings have been expressed already and better by others here, but still I wanted to add a few words of my own. I can't remember exactly when I met Mark, but our paths first crossed for about a year at Capital - he started in '89, and I finished in '90. We had mutual friends and played off and on together for the next few years, but I didn't get to know him very well until I started playing with Honk Wail & Moan in '96 (ten years ago already?), We shared quite a few memorable experiences, including the infamous Thailand tour, several trips to New York City, and countless gigs at Bernie's, Dick's Den, and other high-class local establishments.

Mark and I weren't really close friends, but we did play together quite a bit for a few years, and it always amazes me how well you can get to know a fellow musician and how strong of a bond you can form just through making music with them. Though I hadn't seen him in years, the news that he was gone affected me more than I would have thought. Other than being an all-around great guy, the thing I remember most about Mark was the sense of humor he always managed to incorporate into his playing. Seemingly with little effort, he would change the groove for a couple bars or throw in a quote that would have me and the rest of the band grinning and barely able to play. Someone else here called it "personality" - whatever it is, it's a rare quality to find in a musician, and even more so in a drummer. I've missed playing with him since he left town, but I'll always be glad to have had the experience.

I don't have that many photos of Mark, but here are a few: One with Steve from a HW&M trip to NYC in '97, and three from the Thailand trip. Steve has my Thailand album, so hopefully we'll see more on Sunday.

Rest in peace, Mark - we all miss you...

"From Bruce and Claudia" reposted

2006-05-16T06:20:00.000-07:00

An earlier post titled "From Bruce and Claudia" was incomplete due to email issues. If you read it before 9:20 am on Tuesday, May 16, you may want to take another look. I corrected it at that time.

Memorial Concert video

2006-05-15T12:06:00.000-07:00

I'm planning to film the performances at Mark's concert and produce a dvd for Bruce, Claudia & Kristen. I'll also make the dvd available to anyone else who wants one, for a small fee. (to cover the cost of duplication & materials) More details this Sunday. Also, thanks again to all who've supplied me with photos to use in the tribute video.

Neighbor Pal

2006-05-15T11:04:00.000-07:00

I lived next door to Mark from the time he was born until he was about ten. Even though my family moved away, I still got updates on the happenings in his life from his mom to mine. Almost every memory I have as a child involves Mark and Kristen. I can remember trying to catch fireflies at night in a field next to our houses, swimming in their pool on hot summer days, eating pop sickles on the front steps scheming up our next great adventure. When we were supposed to be raking up leaves, we would build leaf forts and play for hours.

Halloween was one of our favorite "holidays". Our costumes were usually made from things we found in our attics and always required a lot of imagination! It took us forever to make it to all of the maybe 15 houses on our street since the houses were so far apart. The biggest part of the night would be to see who was brave enough to go up to the "spook house" (an old abandoned house). We were sure there were ghosts living there.

July 4th was also a favorite holiday. We would light sparklers and bottle rockets in the Greenwoods driveway, then go down to Saybrook Plaza for the big fireworks. Bruce would lift us kids up on top of the van so we would have a clear view.

We spent most of our summer days exploring the creek behind Mark's house on Munson Hill road. We would try to catch little crayfish and water spiders. Usually the killer mosquitos chased us up the hill before we could catch anything. One summer night we decided to camp out in the side yard like we had done so many times before. This time it was just me and Mark. I'm not sure where Kristen and LeeAnn(my sister) were this time. We set the tent up, got our sleeping bags, pillows, blankets, flashlights, some snacks, and a few games to play. Once it got dark we swore we heard a bear outside our tent! When we finally got brave enough to look, it was just Teako (sp?) the dog! Some time during the night it started to rain really hard. The tent started to sag almost to our faces, probably because we forgot a stake or two. Water also started seeping in the bottom of the tent. We must have set the tent in a low spot. At this point we made a mad dash the entire 30 feet to the enclosed porch next to the garage where we spent the rest of the night.

Winters were spent sledding down the hill hoping we didn't land in the creek, iceskating at on old pond behind our house, building snowmen, and one time we even tried to build an igloo!

The things I remember most about Mark are his sense of adventure and huge imagination. Tom Sawyer definitely comes to mind when I think of Mark's childhood. To Mark I say thank you for sharing your adventures and dreams with me ( and for sharing your toys! You always had the coolest toys). We could not have had a more perfect childhood. Memories of Mark will always stay with me when I think back to the great times we had on Munson Hill road.

Inquiry for Mark's Memorial

2006-05-15T08:09:00.000-07:00

As Mark's Memorial Concert is fast approaching, I want feedback from those of you who have already added to the blog and those who may be reading it, but not yet sharing. Is there any interest in having a "memory board" at the memorial where friends could contribute photos, poems, quips of Mark, condolence cards for the family, etc.??? While it seems a bit redundant to his blog, (and certainly we'd all like to read contributions here instead), I am thinking that there may be individuals who are not as technically based or haven't yet had the strength or time to share their "Mark stuff". Also, it may be nice to have Aaron or Dave B. scan whatever is presented at the memorial for Mark's folks and sister to have (especially photos during college and after, when children aren't a part of your everyday life). If anyone wishes to bring items to the concert, would you please email me at mcombs@copper.net a.s.a.p. If I don't hear from anyone, I won't plan to coordinate this...so far, I know that there will be a slide show, a guest book and obviously, this blog which will last indefinitely, to serve as forums for sharing instead.

The one armed man

2006-05-15T06:26:00.000-07:00

After reading everybody's posts and telling myself "I gotta do that!" for too long, I'm finally writing about Mark. I guess I've been avoiding it since it seems so final. Looking at the dates at the top of the page still tears my heart out. Too young.

Mark was always one of my favorite drummers to play with. I don't even remember what groups we played in at Cap, a few anyway. We always had fun playing together and I knew that I could try anything and even if/when I screwed it up he'd be right there keeping the groove together and laughing at/with me. It always just felt good playing with Mark.

Somehow we ended up playing in the band for a "musical' called Me, Myself, & I that went to schools and performed a variety of show/pop tunes that were supposed to help the little ones learn about life. It was pretty wierd getting up early and trying to figure out where some elementary school was so we could go and play in the gym for 8 year olds. Naturally, Mark was one of the few things that made that gig tolerable. That was true a lot, I don't think I ever turned down a gig if I knew that Mark was playing.

Then there was the jewish band, MazelTov Orchestra. It was a pretty big challenge for us corn-fed midwest boys to understand what to do at an orthodox jewish wedding. Part circus, part rock band, and all culture-shocking ethnic extravaganza! Six hour gigs, hour long dance sets, and NO stopping between songs! As Wiester used to say (and probably still says) "the whole thing's a drum solo!" Mark was the first drummer that came in to sub that gig who "got it" right from the start. Since I kinda knew the routine I was in charge of helping Mark out with a never ending stream of shouts, looks, winks, twitches, and "bass conducting" so that he would catch the hits, stops, breaks, tempo changes, style changes, and all around madness. We would spend the whole gig staring at each other, me hoping that Mark would understand my "directions" and Mark laughing out loud when he didn't. But he never dropped a beat and he was such a great musician that no matter how bizzare things would get, he always nailed it the second time.

My favorite Mark story. Carpooling to a MazelTov gig in Cincinnati in Mark's tan "Jimmy" we had a blowout on the highway. We stopped and tried to put on the spare but it wouldn't fit because it's the wrong size wheel and/or tire! After messing with it for a little while we walked about half a mile to the next exit and went into a gas station to try to get help. There was one guy working there who says that the mechanics just left for the day. Mark asked him if we could bring both wheels and tires in to get a new tire or try to swap them, ANYTHING to get it fixed so we could get to the gig. The guy say's he'd love to help us out but he can't use the tire changing machine because he's only got one arm. We walked back to the car dumbfounded. What are the chances that we get a flat on the way to a gig and the only gas station for miles has everything we need to get back on the road but the guy working there can't help us because he only has one arm. We somehow pounded the wheel onto Mark's truck and it would drive but the tire rubbed the wheel well every time we turned left. We were late to the gig and spent the rest of the night inventing other scenarios where one bizzare coincidence could ruin everything for us on the way home.

After another MazelTov gig in Detroit we were all hanging out in the motel parking lot waiting for the bandleader to get our room keys. The "other Mark Greenwood" (trombone player) was also on the gig and was telling Mark what a great job he did playing this difficult gig as a sub. We were all joking about how it must be the name when the "other Mark" explained that obviously anyone with that name was pretty damn cool and the rest of the world just needed to deal with it. The "other Mark" eventually proclaimed with great fanfare:

"Mark Greenwood.

You know me,

you love me,

or F*ck You!"

I don't think I ever saw Mark laugh harder. That was a running joke between us for the rest of the time that he lived in Columbus, and it still cracks me up. Granted, that's a little "salty" but I think it's true. Everybody who knew Mark loved him, and anybody who couldn't enjoy being around him obviously had their own problems.

More on the Tunnels

2006-05-14T18:14:00.000-07:00

I can elaborate on the tunnels story. You know, it sure seems to me like it was the toward the end of college near graduation too. The only thing is, Mark and I were still roommates and I remember exactly how the bunk beds were arranged when Mark came in looking very spooked and upset. I was sitting on my bed and Frank was sitting at one of the desk chairs when Mark came in and said "I got arrested".

You see, some days or weeks before this incident, someone had discovered that there was a door in the conservatory, inadvertently left unlocked by a custodian or someone, that lead down some stairs to the fabled tunnels beneath Capital's campus. (That's another reason I know this was earlier than senior year - this was in the OLD conservatory before the remodel that happened during our junior year). So, of course, we put a posse together and went back late at night to explore.

I'm not 100% sure who all went on that first adventure other than me and Mark but it was just a few of us. Frank? Did you go that first time or a later time? Anyway, I don't think any of us really thought this was going to work. I mean, if there even were such tunnels, there was probably another locked gate or something that would stop us. Nope. Within minutes we were scampering around water pipes and heating ducts in this strange little underworld.

We were actually able to get inside other buildings on the Conservatory side of campus. We could emerge inside the locked library and even climb the stairwell to the roof. It was great!

We did this once or twice more but then too many people started to get wind of it so I, at least, started backing off. Also, the thrill was wearing off with tunneling on that side of campus. We needed new territory and we'd heard about a second set of tunnels on the other side of the street. Some folks had beaten us to it and there were stories about people making it to the cafeteria and helping themselves to ice cream sandwiches and stuff.

Well, we planned our own low profile trip (I think limited to Mark, Frank, and I) through those tunnels. We knew the entrance was through a side door in the building across from the conservatory. Now, Frank and I never considered going anywhere near the tunnels during the day. Mark, however, on the way back from class, decided to check out the situation to prepare for that night. He ventured in to see if the internal gate was unlocked.

As Mark told the story, the clumsy, out of shape security guard who was sitting on a chair in the shadows jumps up and shouts "FREEZE" and then immediately gets on his walki-talkie shouting "Bexley PD! Bexley PD!" like he was some sort of undercover sleuth on his first stake out. Mark was kicking himself later for not just running out of there since it was just a security guard who was obviously more scared than he was and needed the police to do anything anyway.

Well, apparently, someone had been down there prior to Mark some other night and done some sort of damage or left some evidence that people had been there. Like, I think they were trying to kick in a locked gate. Whatever it was, they wanted to pin it on Mark. Of course, nobody I was with ever did anything like that. We were just looking around. The thrill was that we got in so easily. Breaking in kind of takes the fun out of it.

So, some security guard probably would have been sitting there that night when we went in as planned. As bad an idea it was for Mark to check it out during the day - he probably saved Frank and I from the same fate.

From Bruce and Claudia

2006-05-14T18:11:00.000-07:00

I am delighting in the stories being written to honor relationships with Mark. Of course, parents' relationships are a bit different [grin!] but I would like to share three that may shed light on the fact that few ever knew for how long, or to what extent, Mark was ill these past ten years or so... Bruce wanted me to share these with you.

The first was a Goulais River story, of course. We recalled this the other day at lunch with Kevin Root, a special treat for us. One warm, sunny afternoon Mark, Kevin, and Dave came speeding up river toward our dock, all three in the stern of the boat, the bow riding high out of the water. As soon as the boat touched the dock, Mark lept out and ran up the steps: "Where's Dad?" "Why?" I remember inquiring. "Well, we think we put a scratch in the bottom of the boat on the big turn upriver." Bruce, who had heard them return, approached and asked, "How small? Where?" "Think it's serious?" Mark said he didn't know but it sounded like it was near the center of the boat, as they were making a sharp turn and hit something submerged. It didn't sound quite like a log. "Well, we'd better pull it out and take a look," Bruce, unbelievably calml! y, suggested. And so they did. Emergency room surgery was performed that afternoon on a little red boat in the Goulais garage. The boys learned a valuable lesson in fiberglassing....and we learned a whole lot about how Mark could minimize the importance of events! We found the culprit later: a 12 inch spike on a railroad tie!

The second story came in the form of a phone call home finals week of Mark's senior year. "Mom, I need your credit card number. Ihave to charge "something." Thinking it was something for graduation I asked, "What?" "My bail," he said. Of course you know what my next question was....and how I was feeling at the time, but there wasn't time to talk as this was his "one phone call." And so began the saga of Mark's being commanded to "Halt!" by a 300 pound security guard in the tunnel between wherever he was and the library.... Thanks to his friends for suggesting that the tunnels were a "must do!" before graduating! [grin!]

The final story many of you are familiar with. It involved a certain house on Dodridge which Mark described to us as "a great deal that just needs "a little work".... There are many pictures to confirm the amount of work that was done to make the hovel a home, the subterranean cistern centerpiece of a studio. But, as much as the Goulais, it is responsible for great memories-- and wonderful music, too.

And so, it shouldn't surprise any of us that when he would get the "flu" he would say, "Don't worry. I'll be better in a few days." Or that he'd tell the hospital staff in Las Vegas, "Don't call my folks. I don't want them to worry."

Again, we are so glad to know that he had many talented, engaging and playful friends who filled his too-short life--and theirs--with such good memories. I look forward to thanking you in person next Sunday in Columbus.

Old Man's Cave

2006-05-13T20:19:00.000-07:00

Here are some photos from a day trip to Old Man's Cave that Mark, Faith, Teresa (now my wife) and I took. I was kind of waiting to post these until I heard from Faith.

Remember that most of the pictures on the blog can be clicked to see a larger version.

A Little More Markspeak

2006-05-13T17:01:00.000-07:00

Glad to hear from you, Faith. I hope you're doing well. Your post made me remember some of Mark's other phrases...

"Shake a tower" - take a shower

"High-speed backwards" - hairstyle where hair is drastically smooshed all the way forward

"We got acres of..." - having lots of something

"Shmee" - not sure what this one meant, but it was funny

"Billlllll" - friendly greeting, circa 1992

"Reff" - Jeff (Ludwig)

"Take a dook" - go to the bathroom

"Hammy" - hammock

I sure do miss hearing these kinds of things. Thanks for helping me remember, Weezy.

Piss on a Rock

2006-05-13T15:47:00.000-07:00

It’s horrible to lose a friend. But what’s horrible about Marks death is that as much as we loved each other, we also regularly frustrated one another. And so in a way that is probably typical of our relationship, I have spent the last weeks going through a full range of emotions: deep sadness, emptiness, anger, and guilt over the many times we fought, broke up, and got back together.

There are also times over the last week that I have laughed about his ways, his style. How he would call things different names.….Cadbury Cream Eggs = Crappy Cream Craigs….Tonka = poop. Horsepistol = Hospital. Tod Thortons = Tim Hortons. Vacay = vacation. Sammie = sandwich When he’d get frustrated, he would say “Piss on a Rock.”. I cringe when I think how I’d call him Greenie and Burg and how he’d tolerate it. It seemed at times, that he put up with me - someone who wasn’t a musician, wasn’t a skier, hated volleyball, made fun of Rush….and brought nude artwork into the apartment. (see Beth’s blog entry)

A couple days after Dana called me and told me he died, we were jogging on the National Mall (I live in DC now, have a baby, and a husband. )and we stopped so that my daughter could get out of the jogger stroller. We were sitting and Julianna started delighting in watching two dogs play. One was a German Shepard, the other a tiny little mutt. They were playing, but really the little one was antagonizing the German Shepard. And the German Shepard was so gentle. He could have stomped on the little one, but didn’t. We were laughing about how hyper that little dog was. .and we walked over to talk to the owners. I said, “Your German Shepard is so kind to that annoying little dog.. what’s the Shepard’s name?” and the guy replied “Jazz.”

The line between life and death isn’t always a harsh divide. Sometimes there are thin spaces where it seems as if those we love reach across. That day on the Mall, watching two very different dogs interact, Mark’s playful spirit became known to me in a way that I can’t totally describe. My eyes were open and I saw the gift Mark Greenwood’s friendship.. His life as I knew him, demonstrated getting along and being friends with all different types of people. Throughout our many differences, he still remained a friend.

As grace would have it, one of my last conversations with Mark was in spring 2000, right before I was heading to seminary. We debated God’s love and the role of religion in our lives. In typical Colburn/Greenwood fashion, we didn’t come to an agreement – but at least we enjoyed the banter. Since then, I finished school and serve as a United Methodist minister at a church in DC. I can’t be at the Tribute concert because I gotta baptize a baby that Sunday but I want everyone to know that I will be thinking about you. I really wish I could see everyone, and hear more stories like these online. Thanks Aaron for the blog and Tiff and Rob and everyone who is pulling the tribute together.
BTW – the naked butt picture that Beth refers to still hangs on the wall of my house. My nieces, who are 7 and 5, like to tell people “Did you know that’s Aunt Faith’s Butt?”.

“the kid that jumped into the bushes”

2006-05-12T20:28:00.000-07:00

Many years have passed since Mark and I spent hours together talking, listening to music, driving around town, and “hanging out” with our friends but he never seemed far away because I thought of him so often.

Mark and I met in the early 80s while in junior high. I don’t remember meeting him or when we actually became friends but over time we developed a special bond that kept me connected to him over the years, even though we lost touch with each other after high school. I would like to share some of my thoughts and memories of Mark with you, the people who loved and cared about him, like I did.

One time, Mark rode his bike to my house and a bunch of us ended up playing football in the side yard. As most boys do in 7th grade, he was showing off. Someone threw a pass over his head and he ran and jumped to catch it. Unfortunately for him, he landed in the hedge and had to be pulled out by my father. Dad had to drive him home because he was all cut up. From then on, at my house, he was known as “the kid that jumped into the bushes”.

“Mark’s school picture from 1983 –
I believe it is his 7th grade picture.”

Mark and I were in the percussion section together at both West Junior High and Ashtabula High School. I was a year older than Mark and should have been coaching him in the band but that couldn’t have been further from what was actually going on. Of course, he was a natural and unfortunately, I wasn’t very good – I was lucky to hit the head of the snare drum without dropping my stick. Mark spent a lot of time helping me to “feel the music” - although my skills only improved slightly, we had a great time trying. He never made a negative comment about my lack of skills or about anyone who wasn’t as good as him, he just seemed to enjoy being around people who loved music like he did. Even though he was exceptional, he was also very humble and kind.

High school was a tumultuous time but Mark made it easier and more enjoyable. He was nonjudgmental, respectful, funny, thoughtful, dependable, loving and generous. Reading the other comments, I was pleased to see that his life was full of people who appreciated those things about him.

Often, Mark and I would sit and talk for hours - either alone or with friends. I can’t remember what we talked about but time always seemed to pass too quickly.

”Mark, Dave DeGeorge, Kevin Cherry, and me in 1987”

I will always cherish my time with Mark and think of him with a warm heart.

Rest in peace Mark.

- Stacey

Mark "Flannel" Greenwood

2006-05-12T20:24:00.000-07:00

Here are some thoughts about Mark I received from a fellow Capital graduate...

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Hi Aaron,
This is Crystal (Hughes) Traini. You guys won't remember me , but I was the female saxophone major who came in two years after you and Dave. I never actually talked to Mark, but remember him well and was very sad to hear this news. I have had trouble taking him off my mind. He was a very talented drummer, and seemed to be such a nice guy. His smile could melt you. I remember a few things about him. I had a crazy roommate who named her underwear after guys in the conservatory, and gave everyone nicknames. I do remember that Mark's nickname was "flannel", of course because of the flannel shirts he always wore. I used to pass him in the halls in the morning, and would have a mug of coffee and that awesome unshaved chin and messy head, which really worked for him :) He'd tilt his head and say hey. He had a pretty intense gaze at Dr. Swinehart in Wind symphony. The picture on your tribute site of him with his "bedhead", is how I remember him. I was one of those people who was fairly backward in college. I wish I had been a little more outgoing, and had gotten to actually know him.

"Fishing" on the Goulais

2006-05-12T18:13:00.000-07:00

Here is Mark, Kevin, and Dave taking a break from "fishing". I believe this was the summer between our freshman and sophomore years. I know, its hard to believe that this group didn't catch many fish, but its true. The fact is, in the 6 or 7 times that I went to the Goulais, I truly only remember catching 2 fish (collectively) and they were both within 10 minutes of each other. Mark brought the first one in, about a 28" Northern Pike. I followed with an even bigger one that was about 32". By the way, I am trying to resist the urge to turn this into another "fish story", but I do believe those dimensions to be accurate. We were absolutely ecstatic. When we got back to the cabin we immediately started to cut the fish into enough filets that would feed an army (more like butchered them since we hadn't had much practice). We cooked them up and I must say that it was the worst tasting fish I ever had, but we ate it all and loved it.

Great Moments

2006-05-12T16:45:00.000-07:00

Hey Man,

There are so many good memories I have of you. I want to share a few one-on-one memories that most people would not have experienced with us.

One of our first great moments came together in the basement of the Conservatory (where we would spend many late hours practicing piano). We performed a touching tribute to Rush. You somehow convinced Mr. Square (me) with a classically trained voice to sing the vocal stylings of your favorite group. Your gentle reminders about 'NO VIBRATO' produced what sounded like a Monk on steriods with a few Joe Cocker like convulsions to screech out the high notes. The only saving grace was that we didn't record this 'fine' musical momment.

Of course there were other great moments. You would remember the time we were playing ping pong in the lobby of Schaff Hall. There was nothing better than playing a 'friendly' game of table tennis after a frustrating day in piano class. We were playing a very intense game hitting the ball so hard that we were actually grunting as we hit it (Adding to our tough guy musician image). Well we got in a slight argument about whether or not you meant to hit the ball on the back line of my side of the table (a perfect shot). And as I was explaining how lucky you were to have managed to pull off a like that, you smacked the ball back to me. I saw this white object coming right at me and before I could move, that damn ping pong ball hit me square on my left front tooth. That tooth vibrated like the handle of my grandfather's old lawn mower. Well we both almost peed our pants after that incident. You for obvious reasons and I because I lost control of all bodily functions from my tongue to my toes for approximately 60 seconds. I was soooooo pissed which of course made it even funnier to you. I don't recall you ever laughing so hard.

You would also remember practicing a piano piece called 'Homage to Bill Evans' which you lovingly referred to as 'omage'. You found this piece toward the latter part of our freshman year and played it to death. Every note of that song was etched in my head (As I'm sure you could recall at a moments notice the 2 songs in my expansive repertoire). Years later I remember asking you what you planned to play for your piano competencies. I knew exactly what you would be playing, I just wanted to hear you say it again. Without hesitation you said, 'Well 'Cabbage' (a name you and close friends called me as you felt I looked like a Cabbage Patch Doll when I wore a hat, I still don't get it!) I plan to pay 'omage' to India (our piano teacher). As many times as I slept through you playing that song down in the practice rooms, I wish I could see, hear, and experience you play it one more time. Mark, we will pay 'omage' to you and remember you with friends and family. We will celebrate these memories for the rest of our lives.

Love, Frank

So Many Memories

2006-05-12T11:24:00.000-07:00

When I was first trying to think of what I could write about I told myself that that was almost 20 years ago what could I remember that would be worth writing about, I realized that it didn't matter as long as it was something I could share about Mark to all of the people that were his friends as he was to me all of the years ago. I was a junior in high school when I first met Mark, he and I both played the drums in band. We quickly became friends and started to hang out together. It wasn't long before it was me, Mark and Dave Degeorge, who was also was in Mark's class and played the drums, became good friends. Then reluctantly they talked me into letting Mark King join our group, which turned out to be a very good thing. We would go to parties, hang out at the H.O.G, we went cruising summer nights at Geneva-on-the-Lake and of course did a little camping in the woods behind Mark's house.
As I mentioned above we had a lot of fun growing up however we did go through some hard times together(mostly girl related), got into trouble and sometimes even made the police beat in the Star Beacon. One summer we went to the cabin in Canada, which has seen a lot of action from reading other people's stories, were Mark taught me how to water ski(that water was cold!).

I have a few picture that might be fun to look at, the first picture is one of Mark and myself in the band room at Ashtabula High School. As you can tell I am giving him some pointers!

The next photo I would like to share is prom 1987, Mark was dating a junior at the time so it worked out that we could double date.

Since I learned about Mark leaving us I relived those two years in a matter of few weeks, what I time we had I would never want to change a minute of it. The only thing that I would change now is not letting old friends slip away without trying to find out how they are or what they are doing. I always thought Mark would be the famous person that I could say I knew but I think he was a lot more then that to all of us.

Kevin Root

Mark Skiing

2006-05-11T16:22:00.000-07:00

We have read about how much Mark liked to snow ski when he was growing up. Here is a picture of Mark doing some kind of ski jump. I tried this once (once!) Of course Mark was always the best skier in the group.

The guy every girl wanted to date

2006-05-10T15:43:00.000-07:00

I found this picture in the basement and it reminds me of a time when it seemed every girl on campus wanted to go out with Mark. I remember being so excited when Mark agreed to go to the ZETA pledge party with me. I'm not sure how much fun Mark had, but he sure made my night.

Sometimes it seems just yesterday that we were all hanging out at the Sheridan Ave apartment! What a brothel that place was, Ha Ha. I still laugh when I think of the day when the Gas company guy had to check for a gas leak and everybody's girlfriend was spending the night. What a sight that must have been!!

And how many times did the girlfirends have to do dishes because we couldn't find a cup to drink out of!! You guys sure were pigs.

Then there was the time that Dave told me about this amazing dish that Mark taught him how to make....Camp supper! I'm sure many of you experinced this delicacy!!??

Then there was 66 California. I can still see the picture of Faith over the mantel, what a sight that was! And who could forget the day the kitchen ceiling fell in. How many weeks did it take to fix that?? And I'm sure Mark would laugh at the fact that Dave still hates to do the dishes.

I really wish that Mark could have met Susannah, I think Susannah would have thought Mark was so hilarious, Susannah loves Steve Martin too. I always think of Mark when Susannah makes me watch Steve Martin on the Muppet show.

Squinty Tuff-guy Union of Diggers

2006-05-10T13:22:00.000-07:00

Most people aren't aware, but Mark belonged to a fraternal organization outside of college life. Mark is pictured here, along with his brothers in the Columbus chapter of the Squinty Tuff-guy Union of Diggers (S.T.U.D.)

All Style

2006-05-09T19:21:00.000-07:00

Like many of you, I have thought of Mark almost daily for the past several weeks. I'm hoping for a flood of memories to surface and trying to make sense of his life/death and the lesson in it for me (or all of us). Though I have searched the deepest parts of my mind, my memory will not serve up many specifics. Maybe I didn't know Mark as well as some, maybe my exhausted brain has atrophied from becoming a mom seven years ago, maybe I haven't yet evolved through the sadness surrounding Mark's last 10 years and his recent death...My recollections of Mark are really more about his unique characteristics, his attitude/style. Here's what I loved about Mark:
*the way he'd saunter-shuffle up from behind, drape his arm around your shoulders, walking and talking you through campus
*when the rest of us looked just plain scary, he actually looked good for an 8:00 a.m. class with bedhead and full facial hair (if you doubt this, look again at this blog for the "don't mess with us" entry!)
*how he could make you laugh, even when he wasn't trying to...
*sandals - always!
*how anxious he was to get the group moving toward any spontaneous outing
*the way he was constantly in motion - either beating a rhythm with his hands &/or shuffling those feet
*how he made you feel comfortable "being yourself"
*how he played his instrument with eyes closed most of the time, knees waggling and jittering and peacefully "in his element"
*his crooked sometimes sly smile and that laugh of his, which I can still replay in my mind...It was the best!

Mark was always the one person "cool" enough to not have a date and still comfortably tag along with the group, plus, he was usually the guy with the wheels (a.k.a.- the one who got us there). It seems we were always packed into his gold Bronco (or was it a Blazer?). One time Mark let my boyfriend (now husband), Frank and I hitch a ride down to South Carolina on spring break. He was headed further south to Florida with a friend. It was me and three great guys...on a very long trip. Though I offered many times to do my share of the driving, I was not "allowed" to take the wheel. I was however good enough to be Mark's pillow in the back seat when his shift was up. Mark was a good snuggler and a sound sleeper (just ask Aaron - about the latter).

Aaron, this is the part I tried so hard not to include...so roll your eyes at me now! For everyone else reading this, Aaron gets very cranky everytime I bring up this next memory, but I could NOT pass up the opportunity to state, for the record, that Mark and his buddy still owe Beth Stewart and me a pizza! We four were in religion class together - thank goodness, because it was an early one and not extremely invigorating as I remember. So the boys sat behind us and kept us awake, and laughing a good portion of the time. Beth and I were a bit competitive academically and by the end of the term had become tired of the taunting and testosterone slung at us. So we bet them we could collectively score higher grades on an upcoming test. We did, of course! I'm pretty sure Aaron had trouble getting Mark to study, especially since the winners were to receive just a $5 pizza from the local joint - anybody remember the name? Paradise Pizza? Wish we still had an opportunity to cash in on that deal - good friends sharing a laugh and a greasy, cheap pizza...what happened to those days?

On a more serious note, I must say that there were many times I wished Mark had kept up with our college group's "life stages" - if not for him to find "the love of his life", then for the more selfish reason...he was good company and I wanted him to continue to be a part of all of our lives. But now, I'm realizing that maybe Mark didn't want "mainstream", and certainly attachments to places and people have their own set of complications. I truly respect his need to live life on "his own terms", to "cut his own path", and to follow his sense of adventure. I'm glad he had many opportunities to embrace his passion for music, continue his journey of "wander lust", and frequently exercise his love of the outdoors. Most of all, I like knowing that rather than following any social norms or individual set of expectations, he made up his own. Though Mark's life was cut too short, I think Mark lived much of his 35 years as he wished and to the full extent possible, even in the face of adversity. That's a lesson I will continue to hold close to me for many years to come...

Do NOT mess with us!

2006-05-08T19:43:00.000-07:00

This is a picture that Amy Mailer (Anspaugh) gave me recently. It's me (Aaron), Mark, and Frank Combs early in our first year at Capital - I think. This dorm room did NOT belong to any of the three of us. I SWEAR! I don't even know what that clown thing is on the wall!

I don't remember if mullets were still in style back then - but Mark made it work. Seriously, just imagine me or Frank with one in that picture. Not so good.

Well, actually, I do kind of look like Rick Springfield...

Nobody messed with "The Theater Clown Posse"! Nobody!

Remembering Mark

2006-05-08T08:53:00.000-07:00

I was very sad to receive this news. 14 years ago I played with Mark in the Fusion Band at Capital. I didn't get to know too many people from Mark's class because I was technically the class of '91, but Mark and I got along great. He was my favorite person in the group that semester. As a matter of fact, I still have a rare high-quality Dolby HX-Pro B audio cassette tape called Capital Jazz from 1992 where Mark is playing on one of my songs. He plays a nifty drum solo on it. I would be happy to send anyone an .mp3 or post it here if someone can tell me how to do it.
Here is the link-Thanks Aaron:
http://www.aaronmolnar.com/Playlists/NiceGuysFinishLast.m3u

David Martin

Remembering Mark Greenwood 1971 - 2006

2006-05-07T13:01:00.000-07:00

After not seeing or speaking to Mark in years, this still feels like such a loss. Throughout all the many ups and downs of my time at Capital, Mark was there. We were in the percussion studio together, and it was not always a positive place. So, we got through it together. Sometimes, we’d take a mental health day and go to the French Market (is that place even still there?) or at one of those new-fangled coffee places on High Street. We might smile at each other during a rehearsal, thinking about a private joke or pass notes during one of the unbearably long studio classes we were forced to endure. Mark always seemed to know when to show up, or say something, to make the tough times more bearable.

On our mental health days, Mark and I shared our insecurities about our talents, our dreams for the future, what the world should be. These conversations took place what seems like ages ago. The Mark I knew would be pleased to hear people remembering him as a great musician – which he truly was.

I’m sad he is gone, and will miss the positive and encouraging way he dealt with those around him.

Mark at Photo Shoot

2006-05-06T22:24:00.000-07:00

I think this is from a very cold New Basics Brass Band photo shoot. I had my camera because Faith Colbern (pictured stealing a bite from whatever Mark was eating) was borrowing it to take the photos.

[Dave Bushey pictured in the background]

Isabel - from Claudia

2006-05-06T22:13:00.000-07:00

When this blog first started, Mark's mom sent me a picture of Mark's "best friend" (mentioned in the first blog post) - his dog Isabel. I'm finally posting it.

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I thought it might be fun for the many friends of Mark to see a recent picture of Isabel at the Prescott dog park. She is in good health and will travel with us to Canada again this summer. She prefers romps on the beach to time in the water and particularly enjoys the freedom to run and explore.

- Claudia

Note from a Square Peg

2006-05-06T21:30:00.000-07:00

I admit I didn't know Mark very well - I was a senior at Capital Mark's freshman year, and I was a classical square peg (Vaughn never did write me that bassoon chart for BBSBB, natch!). But I certainly do remember him, and I am shocked and saddened at losing one of "us" - one of our generation. It is clear he had so much living yet to do, from the posts of those of you who knew him better than I did. The pictures of his times in Canada are really special to remember him by - thanks for sharing.

My heart goes out to Mark's parents and his sister. Teresa, that was such a beautiful post you wrote to them.

Tina

P.S. "Wasting Away Again in RRville" - OMG, Dave, I would PAY to hear that...

The way a drummer is supposed to sound

2006-05-05T20:09:00.000-07:00

"...I can never be happy with the drummer, because I have Mark in my head, after all these years!"

Suzanne, I know exactly what you mean. I was a college friend of Mark's, and played in bands with him for many years. To me, no other drummers have sounded quite right playing live since I've played with Mark. His musical sensibilites were perfect - he always knew exactly what to do, and had acres (as Mark might say) of personality in his playing. And when you'd call out hits and stop times and other curve-balls, Mark was backing you up and right on target every time.

He was the way a drummer is supposed to sound.

I liked your post - interesting to hear more about Mark before 1989. Thanks for sharing your stories.

Mountain Biking Near the Goulais

2006-05-05T19:49:00.000-07:00

Here is Mark "chillin" on his Blazer after hitting some mountain bike trails near the Goulais. This picture is from our trip during the summer of '91, right after our sophomore year in college. That Blazer literally went all over the country, from Maine to California, and up to Canada as well.

The Goulais King Returns!

2006-05-04T19:53:00.000-07:00

Thanks, Mark...

2006-05-03T20:35:00.000-07:00

Hi - I'm Suzanne Downes, but any of you who would know me would know me as "Suzanne Fassett". I went to high school with Mark also - he was a senior when I was a sophmore.

First of all, I would like to give my heartfelt condolences to his family and friends. I haven't seen Mark in at least 13 years or so - my memories are "half a lifetime ago" as Shelly so aptly put it - but Mark had an influence on my life that remains to this day, and I wanted to pass my story on.

So, from the time I was in middle school I had heard about the vaulted "Mark Greenwood". Basically, he was the drummer god that all of us middle school kids worshipped when we watched the high school marching band at games, went to pep band performances, etc.

Fast forward to my sophmore year. I was allowed to be in jazz band mostly because the band director knew that he had two graduating seniors, and had to train someone. The two seniors were Mark and Dave (sorry I don't remember your last name, Dave!!). Between the two of them, there was really no reason for an underclassman to even get to play. So, I got the ballads, while Mark and Dave got to "rock out", so to speak.

Basically, to Mark and Dave, I was the tag-along little sister that they were told they needed to take care of. And they did. During rehearsals, I listened. I had the opportunity to "soak it all in". I remember thinking "Man, I'll never be able to play like that!" I heard Mark's impeccable timing, fills reminiscent of Neil Peart, Liberty DiVito and many others. Just rock solid, with groove like crazy.

I got the school of tough love from these guys. Basically, they made it very clear from the beginning that if I wanted to play, I had to fight for it, know what I was doing, and be tough enough to stand up for myself. I listened to them extoll the virtues of Neil Peart. I got to soak in not only Mark's musical style, but his personality, his charisma, his passion for life.

I was always a little afraid of Mark. He was just so confident, so overwhelming. And so fun. At the time, I suppose I was a bit resentful of never getting to play, but in retrospect I got to learn by osmosis, almost. I got to hear, day in and day out, what good drumming sounded like. I got to hear a variety of styles, just oozing groove - sometimes I think I take groove for granted, given that I was never exposed to anything but awesome time in those early years!

Fast forward to the next year - Mark and Dave had graduated, and there I was - having to play everything. I sat down at the throne that had so many times been Mark's - and I didn't have time to question. I could almost hear Mark saying "So play!" And I was amazed at how having the sound in my ear translated to my hands. Now, I was no Mark - but I found that by listening for a year, that influence had given me a concept of sound, a sense of timing that I only needed to match my own skills and sensibilities to. I eventually came into my own, musically - with the level of acceptable quality established by Mark and Dave (nothing else could be considered OK)!

Long story short - I found Mark's passion for drumming contagious. And the influence of Mark, and many others, allowed me to find my passion in life. I am still drumming - professionally. I am a college band director now, and find that when I program certain tunes that Mark would have played in the Ashtabula High School jazz band (Children of Sanchez comes to mind) - that I can never be happy with the drummer, because I have Mark in my head, after all these years! (BTW Kevin, your trumpet solo is also my "gold standard" for this piece!) Mark's leadership, tough love, and example both musically and personally influenced the course of the rest of my life.

He never knew that, I'm sure. I never thought to tell him - heck, I haven't seen him in forever. Some people in your life are a constant, because the memories you have are eternal - no matter how far removed you are. My memories of Mark are like that. I'm sad I never had the opportunity to tell him personally.

Thank you Mark. For setting an example. For inspiring me. For lighting a musical fire to every drumstick you touched.

All just by being you.

To Claudia and Bruce:

2006-05-03T20:04:00.000-07:00

Over the last few weeks since Mark has passed away, my thoughts continually turn to Claudia and Bruce, Mark's parents. As I see Marks pictures in our house I am suddenly aware how much Mark was a part of my and Aaron's lives'. From a photo album of a trip to Old Man's Cave to trips to Canada, Thailand, cruise ships and even pictures of Mark in our very small wedding. However, as a parent myself now I am especially aware of how hard and unbelievably sad this all must be for Claudia and Bruce. When your children are born your hope as a parent is to see them grow old and fulfill their dreams. Although Mark was taken from us way too early, he was allowed, through his parents constant support, to live his dreams. I know his parent's support made him feel even more confident in pursuing his music, his business ventures, or his love of traveling. I have realized more than ever in these last few weeks the importance of encouraging and helping your children realize their dreams. I am so sorry to lose Mark and so thankful for the lesson that we can all take from Claudia and Bruce. Mark and Kristen are so blessed to have you as parents. Thank you for shaping Mark into the person that he was.
Teresa

Contacting Mark's Family...

2006-05-03T19:13:00.000-07:00

Mark's mom, Claudia, and sister, Kristen, will attend the memorial concert at the Columbus Music Hall on May 21. For those who cannot attend and wish to send personal greetings, their e-mail addresses are: drmom42@earthlink.net and kristenherzog@hotmail.com
Both are most grateful to the blog writers.

I Don't Know Much

2006-05-03T18:14:00.000-07:00

You probably can't tell, but this is NOT Linda Ronstadt and Aaron Neville. It's actually me as Aaron (for a change) and Mark as Linda in one of those "Super Star Studios" things at Cedar Point one summer. The Harmonies weren't working out in some spots so we kept trying to trade parts. We were so proud.

Here's a link to the streaming mp3...

I Don't Know Much (click to listen)

If any professors from Capital are reading this, feel free to use this recording as an endorsement for the Conservatory of Music.

To Mark - From Shelly

2006-05-03T04:44:00.000-07:00

My memories are from ½ a lifetime ago, but they are still a part of me everyday. I remember our first conversation in a car packed full of teenagers on the way home from a Bon Jovi concert. I remember your dog Jazz, and not having to ask how she got her name. I remember summers at the boathouse and learning to ski off the back of the boat. I remember your dad in the water with me the first time I learned to ski and you were so surprised that I got up out of the water the first time, that you nearly fell in with us. My memories are about your mom helping me write some papers and you saying you would give anything to be able to describe something on paper the way she could. My memories are about two proms and a trip to Florida with the band. I remember character building times with your family that I still apply today. I remember a family of love and activity and togetherness that skied all year around whether in the water or the snow. I remember eating dinner with your family while you drummed your fingers at the table and seeing Spyro Gyra at the Nautica on a summer night together. I remember camping in Oregon and the ash of your eyelashes from getting too close to the fire…… I can’t listen to Billy Joel without knowing how you felt about the lyrics and the music. I remember when Rush and Billy was all that was played in your brown “Boo” with a gas tank that couldn’t be filled past ½ full because of the hole in it. I remember your love for your sister and her abilities. I remember you coming back from Vail the year I thought I was in love and you looked like a raccoon from the suntan line the goggles gave you. I remember the beret you wore when you played the drums in the marching band, and how you always led the pack even as a freshman. I remember your disappointment in my flute playing when you tried to get a classical girl to ad-lib in the basement while you played along on the drums. There were early mornings to get to Peek-n-Peak so that we could ski all day. I remember you saying that if I can walk then I can ski. I remember hoping you would show up for a reunion or a wedding so that I could see how you were doing and praying for your happiness and success. I still do… as has always been the case where you are concerned, I can’t seem to find closure, so I guess I will “leave a tender moment alone”. Be peaceful Mark. Know that you are cherished.

- Shelly

High School Graduation

2006-05-02T19:34:00.000-07:00

Here is a picture from Mark's graduation day from Ashtabula High School. A few months before this, the four of us made our first trip to Vermont to ski the slopes of Killington, Pico, and Stow. We stayed at the Trailside Lodge near Killington.

I remember skiing down "Outer Limits" which is a vey long, very steep mogul mountain. At this point Pete, myself, and Carl are just learning how to ski while Mark is already a very experienced skiier. He would make the run in a few minutes while the rest of us took our time to enjoy the scenery on the way down; actually it took us forever to make it to the bottom because we crashed at every mogul we hit and sprayed our skis and poles all over the hillside. Of course Mark would wait patiently down at the bottom until we were all done.

In the car on the long 12 hour drive home, we recorded our silly conversations on tape. I don't remember what we talked about. I just remember how carefree we all were with everything, goofing around and having a blast. We were about to graduate from high school and take on the world. That trip was priceless. Unfortunately I no longer have that tape, but if I did, it would be a treasure.

King of the Goulais

2006-04-30T19:37:00.000-07:00

I’ll never forget the times I shared with Mark on the Goulais River. From eighth grade and through college I was fortunate enough to make 6 or 7 trips up to the cabin. To give you an idea of how much those trips meant to me, I once made the 10 hour drive by myself, driving through the night after a week of work and summer classes, just to spend two days at the cabin! While Mark was at Capital, I was nearby at OSU. We didn’t see each other a lot during college; however, we did manage to coordinate several trips together to do the things that Mark loved most back in those days. Outside of the summer trips to Canada, we made a couple trips on winter break in his Chevy Blazer to the ski slopes of Vermont, New Hampshire, and Maine.

I have so many fond memories and experiences from those trips to the cabin. For now, I’ll share the one that is most vivid in my mind. It was the summer of ’89 and our last trip to the cabin before heading off to college so we decided we needed two full weeks rather than just one week which had been customary up to that point. Craig, who was a friend of ours from Ashtabula, accompanied us for the whole two weeks whil Bruce and Claudia were there for half the trip. How they slept at night with three teenagers having full reign of their cabin for one week is beyond me, but Mark and I knew the stakes and knew we had a good thing, we weren’t about to screw it up.

It was cold up there that summer; colder than any of the past trips so we were looking for activities that could hold the attention of eighteen year olds, aside from the normal pounding on water skis and kneeboards behind the boat and fishing trips out in the Goulais Bay. Aaron, I don’t know where you and Mark were fishing, but in the seven trips that I made up there I think we collectively caught two fish. They were big ones but that is another story perhaps I’ll tell later. Glynn, a local on the river and friend of the Greenwood family, was challenged by our plight and felt he had the perfect solution. When he started telling us how beautiful the river was many miles north, we soon spent the next few hours in the cabin in front of the fire, plotting a canoe trip that would be fit for a Mark Twain novel.

We would get an early start; I am guessing about 0700 we left the cabin. The three amigos would start off in Mark’s Blazer with one canoe while Bruce and Claudia followed in the van with the other. We drove for about an hour, mostly on back roads where we may have past one or two cars. I mean we are in the middle of nowhere. We reached the point where Glynn suggested we park the Blazer along with our camping gear, complete with the utensils we would need to clean and cook the fish for dinner that Glynn had promised we would catch. At this point the scenery and river was not much different than when we left the cabin. We transferred the canoe from the Blazer to the van and continued upstream for about eight miles, which took about another 40 minutes traveling north on the narrow dirt road. From the road the river was completely out of sight.

Now two hours into the trip, we finally reached the point where we would launch our canoes and embark on our infamous journey. The landscape had changed dramatically. The river was ice cold and crystal clear. The land was completely uninhibited as if no man had ever stepped foot on it. The winding riverside perfectly lined with trees. We were anxious to get our canoes in the water, send Bruce and Claudia back to the safe haven of the cabin, and start our excursion downstream. We immediately started snapping pictures of the beautiful landscape. Unfortunately I only have a couple pictures left in my possession; the others must have been lost along the many relocations throughout the years. I will ask Aaron to post a picture taken by Claudia of the three of us proudly and confidently standing among the vessels that would take us along the eight-mile ride.

Finally, we were in our canoes and off on an adventure that Tom Sawyer would have been envious of. I’m telling you that during the first two miles of that trip we had a bonding experience with nature shared amongst friends that I have not come close to since. I don’t know how many other eighteen-year-old boys, then or now, would cherish that experience like we did, but drifting down the river on that beautiful summer day we were caught up in the moment and loving every minute of it. The first chance we got we had our lines dropped into the water. As I mentioned before, Mark and I never had much luck catching fish on the Goulais. Glynn had promised that we would catch more fish than we would know what do with. Mark had bought into it while I was much more cynical, not thinking that we would catch a thing. It didn’t really matter much to me one way or the other.

Within minutes we pulled our first fish into the canoe. Not sure who caught the first one but we all eventually got our share. I vividly recall the first one that I caught. It was a speckled trout; the first one I had ever seen and the most beautiful fish I had ever seen. We pulled them out of the river one after the other. I bet each of us caught at least five fish within the first thirty minutes. None of them were small. One fish each would have easily satisfied our appetites for the evening after an eight-mile canoe trip. Although we had the Styrofoam cooler readily available, we let them all go with anticipation that we would catch plenty more as we made our way to the campsite. At this point everything was going as we mapped out with Glynn the night before. We were on cloud nine and all probably thought to ourselves that this was too good to be true.

About one hour and two miles into trip the adventure would meet its ultimate turning point. The river had suddenly all but dried up. We had reached a point where it was no longer possible to paddle down the river. I remember Mark saying “boys we going to have to portage the canoes”. I’m like, what the hell does that mean? I will always remember Mark for his broad vocabulary. Well, I soon found out what it meant as I found myself carrying a canoe over my shoulder along the path of what was just minutes ago, a flourishing river. Mark was always the optimist. This was just a minor setback and we would soon be back on the river picking up where we left off, not letting one more trout get away. It didn’t happen. For approximately the next six miles and eight hours we struggled “portaging” our canoes along the dried up river. Recognizing the excruciatingly slow pace that we were on, it didn’t take long for our imaginations to wander. Would we reach camp before dark? Would we ever reach it? Were we lost out in the middle of nowhere, 50 miles from any form of civilization?

I think it was about 8:00 PM by the time we finally found camp. By the time we got there we were diminished to three worn out thrill seekers and canoes with razor thin linings that had been scraped away by the rocks that lined the river floor. We had made many futile attempts to try to start canoeing down the river again. Our spirit had been broken and we were in no mood to set up camp. Besides, we had nothing to cook for dinner. I’m don’t remember how we did it (must have been with one of the first cell phones ever made), but we were able to contact Bruce and Claudia and have them come pick us up that night. It was probably midnight by the time we got back to the cabin. We had been on an adventure and we were spent.

Prior to Mark’s passing I often reflected on this memory and wondered if it would have as much meaning had it turned out differently. The fact that it turned out the way that it did gave us something special to share on the rare occasions we saw each other over the last 10 years. Since we graduated from college, regretfully I could probably count on one hand the number of times we got together. At this point in time our lives had gone down two different paths, but when we did get together we never got bored with recanting these stories. Mark was a very influential person in my life as a child and teenager. He gave me the gift of adventure, always wanting to try something new and test the limits. Although I am not a musician, I thoroughly enjoyed being around him and his close friends that were very talented artists, listening to them talk shop and jam. I will always remember that wherever Mark was, he was constantly beating on something with his two index fingers as if they were drum sticks, always in perfect rhythm. Mark turned me on to both water skiing and snow skiing, which to this day is one of my favorite pastimes; I just took my six-year-old son for the first time this past winter. He was always head and shoulders better than me at most things we did together, but always made me feel comfortable. He always waited for me for several minutes down at the bottom of the slope. I think it took him five years to teach me how to slalom on a water ski.

Mark, I love you brother. May you rest in peace.

A Poem from Claudia (Mark's Mom)

2006-04-30T18:06:00.000-07:00

Thank you, Aaron, for providing the forum for storytelling. Humanity prevails because of the connections created through such sharing.

The following is from my collection of poems titled "A Healing Place: Poems of the Goulais."

Hidden Treasure

Time is a river.
Life is…
When it seems as if change
is the only constant,
step into the middle,
look deep
beneath the surface reflection
of what is merely present.
Stand silent,
grounded,
in the rich bottom silt
where the stories are,
layer upon layer,
decade by decade.
Stories to curl toes around.
Stories to nourish
to sustain
to connect
to pass on.
For time is a river.
Life is…
exquisitely storied.

Claudia

Autumn in Canada

2006-04-28T15:32:00.000-07:00

Once Mark and I went up to his family's cabin in Canada at the very end of autumn. We knew it would be too cold for skiing so we were basically planning on doing some fishing.

The day we arrived it was pretty much cold and rainy and we watched a couple fishing shows on TV for insipration. After that, however, we got a couple of those rare days where you know it should be getting colder and creeping ever closer to winter but it unexpectedly turns perfect. It was right at the point where the color of every leaf had changed but few had fallen (I can say that with confidence since these pictures are b&w). In the morning we got in the boat and made our way to the middle of the bay which was unusually calm.

Now, except for what appears from the distance to be a relatively small opening out into Lake Superior, the rest of the bay is enclosed by gorgeous hills and trees then plastered with the richest fall colors I can remember seeing. Have you ever listened to one of those relaxation tapes and they tell you to "imagine yourself in a beautiful, peaceful place" but you can't really think of one? Well, this was one of those places. It made me think "why do I ever go anywhere else?" I wouldn't be surprised if there has not been a day quite like that up there since. I'm also not a bit surprised that Mark would want his ashes spread there if there's even the slightest chance his spirit will follow.

Something I bet I'll never experience again was the fog that rolled in while we were out in the boat trying to decide if we should try for some fish in another spot. It was like we were in the middle of a cloud and we literally could not see five feet in front of us. If it had not lifted we would not have been able to find our way back. But, in just a few minutes it was completely gone like it had never even been there. I wish I could have talked about that with Mark one more time because there's no way I can describe it to my satisfaction.

Eventually we found a great spot to catch some Pike but they would only bite very early in the morning when you couldn't see them. During the day we could see them because the water was so calm and clear - but they were not hungry. There were some HUGE fish in there. Some easily 3 - 4 times the size of the one Mark was holding in the picture. They would just sit and stare at our lures (they liked the bright red ones) like kids watching TV.

Growing up, I went fishing many times on Lake Erie with my grandfather. I never could relate to how much of a fanatic he was about it. He and his fishing buddies getting up WAY too early and never tiring of trying a new spot when nothing was biting. Always debating about whether to try their old spots and what tackle the fish might like that particular minute.

This trip with Mark, however, made me understand. There's nothing like two friends out planning and speculating and experimenting trying to find those damned fish and the thrill when we really found them. Don't get me started on catching them! We could barely fit just one of them in the little cooler we brought never really thinking we'd catch anything (the tip of the tail was actually sticking out). A couple of those fish could have jumped out of the boat cooler and all if we hadn't been sitting on it to hold them in.

We spent most of that day out on the bay with a local friend of Mark's family, Glynn, who is also pictured. Fortunately he was around to help us clean the fish or it would have been a big mess.

I could go on more and more about this trip but I won't. These are some memories that are weighing more heavily on me now that Mark's not here to hold up his end. They're just mine now.

What will happen to them when I'm gone?

My Favorite...

2006-04-28T04:38:00.000-07:00

Mark, how I will miss that sound. Tight, in the pocket, and always dancing. It was so easy to play with that going on. The best, however, was after. Your insight, you humor, your intelligence. I will miss you!

Tony Z

Mark Greenwood Memorial Concert

2006-04-27T07:28:00.000-07:00

As you may (or may not) know, Steve Perakis and Rob Maccabee have been working to create a memorial concert to celebrate Mark's life. The following is the latest information about the concert:

Friends and colleagues,

Rob Maccabee has booked a date for the Memorial concert and get
together for Mark Greenwood.
It is to be on Sunday May 21, at the Columbus Music Hall, starting around 3 PM.
http://www.columbusmusichall.com/
Of course, we understand some of you are out of town or might
otherwise be unavailable to participate.
We plan to share stories, songs, photos, poetry
and food ( since the Music Hall has a full kitchen ).
Rob suggested the New Basics Brass Band and Honk Wail & Moan
to play some tunes, and we plan to have a couple small groups play
a few of Mark's jazz and pop tunes as well.
A big thanks in advance to all of you!

Steve

Rob tells me that all are invited to contribute - not just the musicians. Sharing stories, poems, thoughts, etc. - anything that would help to celebrate Mark's life. I'm going to put together a photo collage-type video to be shown at the concert, so if anyone has photos that I could scan & use in the video, I'd appreciate your help. Please email me at david@imagemagic.com if you'd like to get me any stuff you'd like to see included in the video.

It sure would be great so see everyone there. Please pass this info along to anyone who'd be interested.

ex-act-ly!

2006-04-26T21:05:00.000-07:00

The answer is not to wish away the truth.
The answer is inside the truth.
Trying to find a way to hear the truth and for it not to hurt so bad.
The truth is not that Mark died. It is not the truth for me!
The truth is that Mark lives forever. In my heart. In my ears. In my life. In the Spring blossoms. On the river. Behind the drums. In the stories and memories of each of us who know him.
This is what Mark and I did together. We always tried to figure it out. When I would hear "ex-act-ly" I knew I was on the right track and that Mark was with me! I will continue to search for the truth- he expects no less of me. It may be easier now...his voice coming from within. I have learned to trust that voice and to act. One thing we did figure out perfectly is love. Maybe you already know the truth about love, if you don't, here it is-
Love is real.
Love lasts.
Love needs nothing more than to be.

And now as my face wants to cry, my heart shouts out - but look! Love lives on!
I hear love's voice, I see the tulips starting life all over again!

In a way no other can, Mark gently pushes each of us blessed by knowing him to be a more creative human being. All the while convincing us that we can do it. All the while reassuring us that we are pretty amazing just as we are. All the while entertaining us in so many ways- making the journey an awesome road trip!
The wildly happy days of easy life in Columbus were a gift. Mark knew it. He appreciated the time, the place and the people who filled his life there. Life with Mark was also a gift. Given for a short time, all pain hidden and only light and hope shining like the stars above the cabin on the Goulais.

Through Mark's life and with Mark's passing those of us still watching those stars are wiser. We have realized the preciousness of friendship, the miracle of love, the gift of time and the wonder of it all. Mark will be with us forever. His life has eternally changed ours. His spirit lightens our load of sorrow. His accepting laughter echoes in our ears. The purity of his love holds us and holds us together. We will not wonder what might have been. We will stand amazed at what was and forever will be.

I love you, Brother!
Alicia

Sometimes it Snows in April

2006-04-26T18:41:00.000-07:00

Sometimes it snows in april
Sometimes I feel so bad
Sometimes I wish that life was never ending
But all good things, they say, never last
All good things they say never last

And love, it isn't love until it's past

Ah Homey,

I am so shocked, and sad to hear that you died. You had so much power and light -- I just never expected this. I am sorry we never had a chance to resolve things. Or maybe only I had issues that were unresolved? If there's one thing I learned through knowing you, it's not to make assumptions.

Sorry about the Prince lyric. I only included it because I know you would think that it's totally cheezy. I didn't include the part about going up to heaven and finding another friend, because that's not exactly the way I picture it. I can't define the imprint you've left behind, I can only ponder the meaning your life had in mine. Hey, are you channeling a song lyric to me? Can I credit you with inspiring me to get musical again?

Peace.

* * *

This is a post I drafted for my own blog right after I heard the news about Mark. Thanks, Aaron, for starting this blog and giving me a more appropriate place to publish my thoughts and share with others. It helps to fill in some of the missing pieces . . .

I also met Mark back in 1989 at Capital University. Mark was a true "guy friend." We hung out together, and since he'd dated my room mate, that seemed to clear the way for us to be "just friends."

But at times, there were some tensions. We were in the same degree program and shared many classes. We were both a little competitive. Mark was so good at everything he tried, he brought out lots of peoples' insecurities, including mine.

Back then, I didn't have the most constructive way of dealing with those insecurities. [Flashback to certain incidents involving toilet paper (which, for the record, was entirely Beth Stewart's idea!), whipped cream and a pan full of dirty dish water.] Mark was a good sport.

When I first heard the news about Mark, I went to the Internet and tried to Google him, and got dozens of hits (who knew there were so many Mark Greenwoods?) I realized that I was desperately searching for more than just information, but for a way to contact Mark - as if he'd still be able to check his e-mail. Then, I gave in to one of my personal pet peeves and drafted this totally corny letter to him . . . worse than anything I've read in any of those on-line funeral home guest books . . . But, I guess it all goes back to feeling "unresolved."

So, what would make me feel more resolved about Mark? To know that he reached a point in his life where he was happy, satisfied--a point where he'd achieved what he wanted to do. Some of what I see and read here answers that question very well. And yet, so many questions will remain unanswered.

As for our friend, Mark Greenwood, there was only one.

Mark

2006-04-25T18:54:00.000-07:00

I first saw Mark in 1989 when he came to school at Capital. I was in my junior year and had made many other friends by this point but you couldn't help but notice Mark whenever he was around. I suppose I must have seen him first in Wind Symphony. I don't recall our first meeting but I eventually I made many friends with the incoming freshman and Mark became one of them. It is funny to think back on little memories that I had forgotten until now. I guess the earliest memory I have is of the two of us going to Kroger's to pick up some groceries. We were walking down the coffee aisle and I made a comment about how wonderful coffee smelled but, at the time, did not drink it. In the course of this conversation, Mark eventually convinced me to eat a coffee bean. He laughed and I was spitting bits of coffee bean out the rest of the night. He always knew he could pull one over on me. So many good memories. I'll share more later.
Dana

"Here's to my Friend"

2006-04-25T18:04:00.000-07:00

To begin, I'd like to thank Mr. Molnar for spear-heading this initiative, inviting me to participate, and more importantly, summarizing a few things that have been reeling through my mind as of late (Thanks, Aaron).

My relationship with Mark began as a peripheral one; friend of a friend (or rather, roommate of my main drinking buddy at the time). Our initial interactions primarily consisted of Mark desparately trying to kick my inebriated posterior out of his house so he could get some much deserved peace & quiet. He was way too cool to be hanging out with the likes of me. But, I eventually began to grow on Mark (much like a fungus), and we soon became good friends.

Seems like Mark was almost always hanging out at the Eastmoorland pad, back in the day. It was there that we delved into video production; the "Johnny is Easy to Kill" series, "The Letter", "Discount Psychics", and other camera fun to pass the time. Mark would always find ways to recruit and incorporate all our friends. He was ever the producer, director, camerman, script-writer, etc... Mark would always refer to me as "the talent", even though I was never really deserving of the title.

Mark was already a seasoned performing musician when I was "still in my musical diapers". He was always ahead of the curve like that. Performing with NBBB and HWM with Mark in the drum seat was always a pleasure. He was such a natural musician, with a flow and vibe that was effortlessly cool.

Mark's generosity was overwhelming. How many times did he go out of his way to lend me a hand? Too many to count.

I'd lost track of him over the past few years, but Mark was frequently on my mind. I wish I had made more of an effort to get in touch with him. Always thought we'd have more time.....

This is my favorite picture of Mark.

Miss ya, bruh.

From Mark's Mom (Claudia)

2006-04-24T18:17:00.000-07:00

Claudia asked me to post a few things here for her. First, a poem she wrote for Mark at one of his gigs. Based on the date and the location she mentioned, I think it was probably with the Jeff Ludwig Quartet - but I guess that's not so important. Also, she requested that I include a link to the American Porphyria Foundation - which I have done in the blog sidebar to the right.

" I would also like you to post the name of the website for the American Porphyria Foundation as a source of information to people who have for so long known that Mark has been ill, but who--like most doctors we encountered--know nothing of the condition or its devastating effects. Among the types of porphyria, his was identified as acute intermittent. It certainly explains the "attacks" which forced him to spend far too many days in bed. Unbelievably, the medication that he was prescribed and which he took faithfully for 'irritable bowel disorder for five years "

She also sent a couple pictures. The first picture was taken at Christmas 2004 near their home at the Prescott zoo. The second is Mark and Claudia in Skull Valley, AZ in the spring of 2005. It's great to see these more recent pictures of him. It's also hard because he seems so close... just one year ago.

Distant Drummer

Where do you go
when you close your eyes
as you play?
Do you spiral deep
into a centering place?

I want so desperately
to accompany you,
to ride on the pulsating
rhythms and sounds
that explode beneath
your fingers,
beckoning me.

I watch you closely
but find no clue in your pursed lips
which guard the secret.
I am left,
quite alone,
outside the circle,
the center inaccessible
to me.

Mom
1993

Mark in Grand Cayman

2006-04-23T16:08:00.000-07:00

This is a picture I took of Mark in Grand Cayman on a small boat taking us and a group of cruise passengers to go swim with the stingrays when we were on a cruise ship excursion. We were playing in the band for the Cunard Crown Dynasty and signed up as the official staff member "guides" for the trip - which just meant that if there was an emergency or something we would be expected to go out of our way to notify someone on the ship. That was the price you paid for getting to go on the trip.

I remember the sound of the boat engine and the smell of the salt water as it occured to me to take out my camera. I wish I had done that more often.

note: the photo I put in right hand column of this blog is also from that boat ride.

More on the cruise ship experiences later...

And one more thing, I'm working on setting up a shared photo album where we can all put our Mark Greenwood photos and captions. I'll post instructions here when that's ready.

Good-Bye Mark

2006-04-20T10:31:00.000-07:00

Our Friend, Mark Greenwood, left us on Saturday April 8, 2006 - one week after his 35th birthday. Below is the notice sent by email from his mother, Claudia...
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This is a most difficult note to write, but necessary. Our son, Mark, 35, died this past Saturday in Las Vegas, Nevada. Those who knew him knew his dream. There were also shadows. He struggled for years to keep them at bay. Much too soon the dream faded and the shadows claimed his gentle spirit. We will remember his as gifted and clever, kind and loving. He brought great joy to our lives and many others through his music. He is survived by his best friend, a German shepherd. Isabel, who has been staying with us this past year.
We plan no services, but will take his remains to Goulais River, Ontario, this summer, returning him to his favorite fishing hole.
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I hadn't seen Mark much in the last five years or so and, as it seemed, he was always on the move and doing his own thing, there was no reason to believe I would see him anytime in the near future. Still, I am now painfully aware of just how many times in the back of my mind I think "I'll have to tell Mark about that someday" or "Mark would really like that" or "I wonder if Mark has heard this album". Mark was always around in one way or another whether he knew it or not.

I know most everyone reading this must be experiencing something similar to what I have been feeling over the last couple of weeks. The flood of memories that were temporarily buried by the distractions of everyday life. The recall of conversations and experiences shared with Mark that nobody else remembers or even knows about. And the new burden of carrying on alone in our minds inside jokes that now nobody else gets. It's a very lonely and anxious feeling. What if I forget? Who will someday call and say "hey, remember that one time when...?"

Well, I hope this blog will help by giving us all a place to clarify and deposit our memories. In my experience, Mark often liked to carry on very separate friendships and was constantly looking for ways to define who he was by seeking out new expereiences independently. In this regard, I suspect this blog will help fill in the gaps for many of us as we find out what was going on with Mark in the parts of his life that we weren't a part of.

Let me start by telling how I know Mark for those who don't know me. We met when we were both about 17 - I think in 1988. We were both playing with a community big band (The Western Reserve Big Band) that rehearsed in Kirtland, Ohio. He pretty much kept to himself until I helped him carry out his drums one time. I think that's when our friendship started. We eventually learned that we were both heading for Capital University in the fall which, thinking back, is much more of coincidence that I realized at the time. We agreed that we should try to room together and we did for 2 years until he decided to move out of the dorms.

Of course, we had many, many experiences together after that but, for now, I'll just leave it at that. I'll create another post immediately with a photo and a short description of what was going on to further set this thing in motion.

I miss you Mark!